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I had an experience yesterday that made me sit down and laugh, not because the situation was funny but because it was the type of moment where the likelihood of it happening is maybe 6 billion-to-1 (okay, I made that up but I never said I was a statistician).

I had a moment where I was contacted by my past, present and if I wanted it to happen, my potential future. I sat on the bed and couldn’t believe what I was seeing, almost simultaneous contact via email, text and IM. It reminded me of Scott Pilgrim fighting “The League of Evil Ex’s”…except they weren’t all ex’s and for the most part, they are not evil (well there is one that the jury is still out on…)

It helped me come to a huge realisation about being used. I am 36 at the weekend and I feel good that I have been able to let go of my past. I made a decision to close the door on the potential future because I am now able to recognise traits in people and to see what could become a recurring bad habit. I am not so needy that I will allow myself to fall into destructive relationship situations again.

I need to stop trying to influence what may or may not happen. If I concentrate on what works for me in the present, right now, my life will be happier. The past is just a reference point. The present moment is all that matters.